You Are Ruining Your Life If You Ignore This

We’ve all heard the line, ‘Ignorance is Bliss,’ but that’s an absolute lie. Allowing ignorance in your life is destroying your energy, your potential and your dreams. You are ruining your life by your ignorance.

What am I talking about? The negative flow of thoughts, people and events that bombard you almost every moment of your life – have tremendous power. Dr. Caroline Leaf says that 75% to 95% of the illnesses that plague us today are a direct result of our thought life. We all need to pay attention to more research and what it shows is that ‘fear alone, triggers more than 1,400 known physical and chemical responses and activates more than 30 different hormones as stated in the book,’ ENERGIZE, by Gina Oldenburgphoto_sad_girl_rain2

“As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives.”

Henry David Thoreau

Where did we get the idea that information and events we allow into our lives don’t matter? Why do we stand by and watch as we are flooded with the poisons of bad news, negativity and toxic relationships? These things have a PROFOUND effect on how we think and feel. There is no escaping, Listen to me, if you are not vigilant about what you allow into your life you will become the next victim in line who will never accomplish your potential because you stood there and did nothing.

Here’s some research you need to understand – our thoughts spark emotion-driven action. There is no way around it. Once you begin a thought, it triggers a vast array of signals and chemicals in your brain that literally control almost every aspect of how you feel and how you create the next thought. (more…)

This 1 Simple Shift Will Begin to Help Your Dreams Become Reality

I want to show you 1 incredibly effective change to make in your life so that you can begin to see your dreams come true – and it’s scientifically proven to work. You can create the kinds of changes in your life you long for, but two things have to happen for you to be successful: (1) knowing what to do and (2) doing it consistently over time.

Have you ever wondered why successful people seem to have win after win after win? What are they doing that the rest of the population isn’t? What’s the secret sauce? Well, it’s not something you can buy in a jar, but if you put into practice what I’m about to tell you, it will help you start succeeding on a regular basis. 

“Success is a function of persistence and doggedness and the willingness to work hard for 22 minutes to make sense of something that most people would give up on after 30 seconds.” ~ Malcolm Gladwell

This one change in your life is so simple but 90% of people won’t do it. Why? The same reason they don’t put other proven tools to use. We read books but don’t implement the concepts. We know exercising everyday is incredible for our health but most won’t make the effort. We buy into the lies the tell us that if we are really going to change and have the kind of life we want, we will have to win the lottery, walk into work and suddenly receive a massive raise or wake up one day and have the next huge idea that will make us millions. But life just doesn’t work that way.  The most successful people in the world do simple things every single day that bring them incredible results. And you can to.

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6 Proven Ways to Motivate Yourself Every Day

It happened to me this morning. No motivation to write, to get moving, to work on my goals – just an overall state of blah. I felt off. I couldn’t seem to pull myself out of a low-grade funk. What could I do to motivate myself? I decided to go back to the basics of what I’ve learned about motivation. I practiced what I’m preaching below – and it worked.

OUR EMOTIONS CAN BE BIG FAT LIARS

Our emotions are precarious rascals. They can often lead us astray, lie to us, compel us to give up and take the easy route. They can convince us that our dreams won’t come true, we won’t live a happy life, and that the next disaster is waiting just around the corner. That’s what emotions can do when they rule us, but we must rule them. It’s the key to seeing the most important things we desire in life become reality. photo_motivations copy

Most emotions are coming from information our brains are receiving. If we wake up dreading the day or telling ourselves we don’t want to face what is ahead, guess what the corresponding emotion will be? It’s almost like a self-fulfilling prophecy. The reason this is true is because of the neurotransmitters that spark the chemicals being released in our brains that tell us what to feel. The release of dopamine in our brains is a key factor in the determination of our motivation. Add these things below to your daily morning diet and you will be sure to increase your levels of motivation everyday and feel completely different about seeing your goals and dreams become realities.

Find simple ways to manage your mood.

The mistake most goal setting courses and productivity systems make is this – they fail to consider how our emotions affect every single thing we do. Why is this important? Because of how our brains are structured which I discuss above. This is also why it is so critical to learn how to increase positive emotions in our lives. These 6 simple things can be game changers to increase our motivation. (more…)

You Can Immediately Change the Way You Feel About Yourself and Others

TomDavis_Positivity_HopeChest_2 copyI’ve put together a free video that will help you immediately change the way you feel about yourself and others. This skill will help create more success in your life in almost every area that’s important to you.

Let’s be honest, we live in a negative world. There is no way around it. We have to be PROACTIVE if we are going to fight against the tide of negativity and create a more positive mindset. The benefits are countless and proven by research: a longer life, more creativity, deeper relationships, more joy, increases trust, makes you more resilient – I could go on and on. You have everything to gain when you are more positive and you use this skill. This video shows you how.

But we are already behind the 8-ball. We need to be immersed in over 100,000 healthy, positive thoughts every single day. Most of us are way below 50,000 (scientists count these things not me!) which means that we are not experiencing the quality of life, peace of mind, physical health, connections and relationships we need.

It takes time to change your mind – and increasing your level of positivity is a process. It took many years to develop the mindset you have and it will take some time to create the one you want to have. I am going to help you make simple, small steps to infuse more positivity and authenticity into your daily activities. Every teaching or video is meant to help you understand the mechanics of how your brain functions and learn new skills that help you flourish. I promise you it’s worth every second of your time investment.

This video is free to our community. If you are already a part, simply click the link above (Head over to our exclusive content area) to watch. If you aren’t part of the community, all you need to do is enter your email (above) to become part of the community and have instant access. Thanks for watching and please let me know how this skill helps to improve your levels of positivity – tom@yourpositivitycoach.com

The Joy of a Merry Christmas

Elements of Well-Being Theory

I’m sitting in a café in Barcelona surrounded by the sights and sounds of Christmas (this picture is my current view). I don’t know about you, but the Christmas holidays always push my buttons. I have good memories and bad memories of holidays gone by, but it’s always the bad ones that stick out in my mind. For me and most people the pull of the negative is simply stronger than the positive (that tendency is so powerful it has it’s own name – more on that later).

Regardless of what the holidays have been for you, I want to help you with what will be. There are simple things you can focus on this holiday season, and into the New Year, that will help you to be filled with more joy, peace, gratitude, hope and all the other warm, fuzzy words that describe who you want to be and what you want to feel. This is for me too. IMG_0205One of the reasons for our move to Europe this year is so my family and I could break the cycle of negativity and excess comfort we were experiencing and cultivate more of those “warm and fuzzy” traits in our lives.

I would like to describe our adventure through something called Well-Being Theory. Well-being theory is the idea that you and I can consistently sustain the kind of life we desire. Yes, it is about being happy, but I would say it goes way beyond simple happiness. (more…)

Why I Left Children’s HopeChest

I’ve not spoken publicly about my departure as CEO from Children’s HopeChest. Some of the best years of my life were spent at that ministry. It’s where I met many of you and where I wrote most of my books: Fields of the Fatherless, Red Letters, and two novels – Scared and Priceless.

TomDavis_Positivity_HopeChest_2As we approach the Thanksgiving holiday I am especially thoughtful of my HopeChest family – I’m so grateful for almost 14 years there – for every single orphan, every staff member, and for each of you who have touched my life. There are many reasons why I left that I discuss in this video (more…)

Gratitude – The Secret to Happiness

One of my main goals for this year it to be a person who is filled with more JOY.

“The root of joy is gratefulness…It is not joy that makes us grateful; it is gratitude that makes us joyful.” ~ David Steindl-Rast

Let me be the first to admit – I struggle being grateful. I don’t resist it, I just don’t think of it. Blame it on my formative years or my “undiagnosed ADD” (according to my sweet, patient wife!). Kidding aside, I am serious about being a grateful person because I know there is life-changing power in gratitude. Let me show you exactly what that power looks like in your life.  (more…)

10 Great Ideas to Reverse the Negativity in Your Family

Ok everyone – for this, I NEED YOUR HELP.

My wife had a great idea this morning. She said, “Wouldn’t it be great if we could gather the TOP 10 best ideas people use in their families to reduce negativity.” I thought it was brilliant. That woman’s intuition thing. 🙂 Photo-BIRDCAGE

You know, that kind of environment where you can’t get your kids to stop arguing – or your spouse is getting on your nerves so bad you want to explode – or you wake up on the wrong side of the bed and have to deal with yourself before you face your family. (This happens to me more times than I would like to admit. My neuro-chemicals must be off) These real world issues are what Positive Psychology helps to solve.

So here’s the skinny – from research I know you need 3 positive things to occur in order to make up for 1 negative (more…)

What is Positivity?

Life can deal us some tremendously negative blows. Think about how many times you have to overcome discouragement – even in a single day. Your child didn’t make the top soccer team, that promotion didn’t come through, you discovered that someone you thought a friend is gossiping behind your back, you just have zero motivation to get on with your day. The list goes on and on.

photo-MountainManReflectionMany research studies show that the best way to overcome discouragement and disappointment is to live a life of Positivity. This is not pop-psychology or guess work. It is live-able truth confirmed by scientific research. But what exactly is it? Positivity is a derivative of the Positive Psychology movement – a scientific study about what makes life worth living. And it’s been the focus of my Doctorate for the past 5 years. (more…)